Last night I had the honor of leading a workshop called, To Be A Man, which explored the often confusing and contradictory messages about being a man today, and just what the hell does being a “real” man even mean. A few months ago I began having this nudge to do something specifically for men. In early November, 2015, I was at an event talking to people about my Energy Coaching and Akashic Records Readings and began chatting with a woman and I mentioned feeling called to do more with men. On the spot she asked me to come speak at her art gallery, Blue Wave Fine Art Gallery, as part of a speaker series she was putting together for 2016. The voice of fear in my head was saying “NO! I have no idea what I’d say, this is just some crazy half an idea so far”, but I chose to say yes.
As the evening began last night, it didn’t seem that anyone was coming. I was fine with that. I was telling Asia, the gallery owner, how grateful I was for the opportunity. It gave me the reason to create the content I was presenting, to make a Real Men Feel Facebook group and launch a monthly Men’s Spiritual Support Group at Circles of Wisdom. As a speaker who relies on vulnerability and speaks from the heart – having nobody show-up is not a fear of mine. A non-existent audience is my comfort zone.
As the time to begin arrived, three brave souls were there to listen, to share and to be open to more. I presented my views and experiences of being a man. I did my best to model the authenticity that I believe is key to anyone living a happy and engaging life. Everyone shared – more than I dared to hope for. We talked and explored for 2 1/2 hours.
Fear could have stopped this from happening at so many points. Action cures fear. Please listen to the nudges you get in your life. Your authenticity could be the very gift someone else is in dire need of. Be authentically you.
I have no idea where this men’s initiative will take me, but I’m willing to go there.
I attended this group..To Be a Man:
“What a great class! Tackled the tough topics– labels, stereotypes, racism, sexism…Andy has a way of simplifying things and motivating his audience. I applaud his “guts” for getting a group of men together, taking on such topics, and helping us feel more hu- man.
Thank you Andy.
It was my pleasure, David. Thank you, for having the guts to attend!