Navitas: Latin for energy; get up and go

Happiness Jar

In 2014 I began a Happiness Jar. The idea is to jot down a highlight of your day on a scrap of paper and put it into a jar each day, then read all the notes on New Year’s Eve. My jar was full five months into 2014, and being a stickler for rules, I refused to do anything about it because it wasn’t New Year’s yet. By the time 2014 came to an end, I was in no mood to explore my own happiness. So, please make use of a Happiness Jar but don’t get caught up in any rules around it.

Happiness FireI like bringing fire into any ritual I do, so after I read my notes I burned them all on New Year’s Day. This is optional and should only be done if you can do it safely! Burning down your home is NOT something you’ll want to add into a note for your next jar.

You can add whatever extra steps you would like to your own Happiness Jar, or Happiness Fish Tank! Make a family jar, add to it weekly, read them back monthly, quarterly, whenever you need a lift, or turn it into a time capsule and don’t read them for years as I did.

The Happiness Jar
I heard of this from author Elizabeth Gilbert.
Every night write down the happiest moment of your day on a scrap of paper and save it in a jar.

It could be:
-surprise gifts
-compliments
-accomplished goals
-laugh out loud moments
-the beauty of nature
-favorite moments
-moments to appreciate
-thoughts of gratitude…
-any memory you want to save.

It takes just a few seconds each day to do this.
Then on New Year’s Eve (or whenever you feel like it!) open your jar and read each item. Be prepared to be blown away.

Enjoy!

I’m seeing a lot of people complaining about what a bad year 2016 and how they can’t wait for it to be over and good riddance to it. I’m not buying it.

My 2016 was a year of fun and joy. That’s doesn’t mean every moment of the past year went exactly as I wanted it to. But I’ve learned from past experience not to put down or label an entire year as horrible due to a few bad moments.

In numerology, 2016 was the Year of Completion, and many celebrities and family members did have their lives come to an end in 2016, but while the timing may certainly have been a surprise the fact that human beings pass on is not. The fact that you and I have gotten through some loss and grief is a testimony to our resilience. I love when the whole world celebrates the lives of greats such as Muhammad Ali, David Bowie, Prince, George Michael and the many other artists, leaders and friends lost in 2016.

Early in 2016 I realized it had been more than two years since my wife, Lori, and I had taken a true vacation. So in April we ran down to Universal Studios in Orlando for all the fun of Islands of Adventure and the Wizarding World of Harry Potter. We had such a blast on the rides and realized we hadn’t been to amusement parks recently so, the East Coast Coaster Tour was born and in July we visited 5 amusement parks and rode 42 different roller coasters. Then in October I had one of the best weeks of my life as I explored the national parks of Utah with a bunch of friends from my hometown of Leominster to celebrate most of us turning 50. Considering that the last two Decembers had me quite down and riddled with suicidal thoughts, the notion of turning 50 – let alone celebrating it – still blows me away.

UtahThis year featured two initiations for me. In March I became an Initiate in the Modern Mystery School and I’ve loved all the experiences and people I’ve met as well as the rituals that have become a part of my daily life. While in October I was initiated into the brotherhood of new warriors that is the ManKind Project. Their New Warrior Training Adventure was the 47th multi-day personal growth event I’ve attended in the last eight years and it was nothing short of miraculous for me. In 2017 I’ll continue my journey in both groups and continue to bang the drum and encourage more people to explore them as well.

One of the biggest ways I’ve stepped out in the past year was by creating Real Men Feel which consists of groups, a website, blog and weekly podcast. I can’t thank my co-host Appio Hunter enough for stepping out into the unknown with me when I first asked him to join me on the show in February. 40 episodes later it has become a highlight of each week for the both of us. I’ve continued to have amazing experiences with the Akashic Records and set a new personal best with 25 readings in one day in November. I was also blessed with some very brave coaching clients whose transformations I got to assist and witness. All of my books continued to find new readers and receive great reviews. I achieved my goal of entering the audiobook arena this year with three of my titles as well. 

I saw Paul McCartney for the first time and I saw Kiss for the 25th time (maybe more). I presented workshops in three new places, I premiered my “To Be A Man” presentation, and facilitated a monthly in-person men’s group. I was interviewed on numerous radio shows, webinars, and podcasts.

Why do I share a list of favorite moments from the past year? Is it to feed my ego and show off? No. Well, not completely. I do this for me because it feels great. I write this to remind myself that despite deaths in the family, despite needing to get live-in care for my dad, despite feeling down and low for the first week of the year – 2016 was 98% free of depression and suicidal thoughts and I was welcomed with open arms into two great communities.

I share this to remind and encourage you to do the same thing. Take a few minutes to mentally review each of the past 12 months for wins, laughter, and little (or big) moments you may have forgotten about. Allow yourself to move forward with a bit of joy and a lot of gratitude – even for the things that didn’t exactly seem to go your way. Recall the Chinese blessing, “May you live in interesting times.” Well, we certainly do.

All and all, another year of highs and lows. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

Enjoying Life Is The Best Suicide Prevention Tool There IsLast week I had the privilege of being on the Dr. Stem Show – Living Fearlessly Outloud on Radio Outloud with Dr. Stem Mahlatini. We discussed my experiences with depression and suicide attempts as well as some of the lessons in my book, Still Here: How to Succeed in Life After Failing At Suicide.

From The Show:
Suicide is a tragic event with strong emotional repercussions for its survivors and for families of its victims. In 2014 there were  more than 42,000 people in the U.S. who killed themselves, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, making it the 10th leading cause of death overall. The numbers are astounding and a reminder that LIFE is precious. With enough education, empowerment, and encouragement our guest Andy Grant reminds us that enjoying and living life fearlessly out loud is the best suicide prevention.

The annual age-adjusted suicide rate is 12.93 per 100,000 individuals. Men die by suicide 3.5x more often than women. On average, there are 117 suicides per day. White males accounted for 7 of 10 suicides in 2014. From 1999 to 2014, suicide rates in the United States rose among most age groups. Men and women from 45 to 64 had a sharp increase. Rates fell among those age 75 and older. The increases were so widespread that they lifted the nation’s suicide rate to 13 per 100,000 people, the highest since 1986 a concern that needs to be addressed as we face the holiday season.

Andy teaches workshops ranging from energy tools to ebook publishing, and is the founder of Real Men Feel, a movement encouraging men to come out of the emotional closet. Andy is committed to helping people realize how magnificent life is meant to be. Andy believes happiness is a learnable skill and no matter what has happened in the past, no matter how we feel right now, we are all capable of feeling happier and enjoying our lives even more.

“Enjoying life is the best suicide prevention tool there is.” Andy Grant

For Further Insight:
Follow Andy on Twitter
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Books: Amazon.com/author/AndyGrant
Andy’s Real Men Feel Podcast: Real Men Feel on iTunes

If you are in an emotional crisis PLEASE do not hesitate to reach out for help, now! Call 1-800-273-TALK in the United States. Visit suicide.org for international numbers.

Scary Mail

I received a letter in the mail before Thanksgiving and I’ve been resisting opening it.
Who sent it? What am I afraid of?
Watch now to find out.

 

Love LetterExplore sending a love letter, a pick-me up, a pep-talk, note to yourself. Ideally, wait long enough to open it that you won’t recall what you wrote, then allow yourself to be surprised, touched, proud, grateful…

This weekend I attended the Graduation and Homecoming event for the New Warrior Training Adventure weekend I completed two weeks ago. It is a powerful, transformative event put on by The ManKind Project. I made before and after videos and dedicated an episode of the Real Men Feel podcast to it as well. You can dig in to all of that goodness right here. That episode has quickly become the most popular show we’ve done yet and I’ve heard feedback from men, and a couple of women, from all over the world.

I really can’t recommend the New Warrior Training Adventure enough. At homecoming I got to witness what partners and spouses have seen in their men since they’ve returned and got to learn more about all the amazing thinks MKP is up to. There is even a women’s version of the weekend called Women Within.

I attended the NWTA weekend to gain some clarity over my own work with men and whether Real Men Feel was really something worth continuing with. The work I experienced and witnessed, along with the overwhelming feedback I’ve received via email, online and in-person regarding the podcast has left me with no doubt about my mission.

I also learned my animal name, Fun-Loving Chipmunk, which I am enjoying more every day.

Fun-Living Chipmunk

My man card, or rather my New Warrior certificate.

Man Certification

I cannot encourage men to explore the ManKind Project strongly enough, and women please check out Women Within. It isn’t just a female version, it is a weekend created by and for women. There is also program for boys and one for men behind bars.

I’ll be volunteering at the next New Warrior Training Adventure being held in Massachusetts in March 2017. I hope to see you there.

It’s been over a month since I’ve done a video. I don’t like going that long, but sometimes going with the flow of life means dealing with things you don’t like. Such as the way this video keeps freezing towards the end of it, perhaps my trusty old Mac isn’t as trusty as she once was.

Regardless, the point of the message remains. Be willing to have an uncomfortable conversation. Most people don’t like to talk about death, most don’t like to talk about money either, but talking about both can be one of the most important conversations you ever have with your family.

Be good to yourself,
Andy

Here’s a brief taste of Arches National Park, Utah

Delicate Arch

Delicate Arch, Arches National Park, Utah

 

 

Double Arch

Double Arch, Utah

Today has been a long day, ending a challenging time for my family. As someone who often speaks of authenticity and founded Real Men Feel, this is one of those videos I knew I had to make.

For Marilyn

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If you’ve been following me closely you may recall that in July I had animal communicator, Diana van Trijffel-Pak do a reading for my dog, Sadie. If you don’t recall and want to get up to speed, read this.

During that session this happened – “Suddenly she (Sadie) asks if you could also do that Akashic thing for her. I tell her that I don’t know, if they are done for animals. I suppose it could be done. I tell her to pass on the request.”

Today, I finally got around to doing that Akashic thing.  When I do readings for clients it is over the phone or Skype. When I do readings for myself, it is usually silent and I write everything I’m asking and receiving. For Sadie I decided to do it on video and speak everything out loud.

Here’s what happened…

Sadie

FU: I Love You

The first time I ever did a “fuck you, I love you” post it was how I signed off on a video after a friend seemed to die by suicide. It was unplanned wording that perfectly reflected how I was feeling. I used it again in a video after Robin William’s suicide (wow, two years ago for both). In each case, I was saying that I loved them, the person, but I was pissed at how they went out. The “fuck you” was to suicide.

I find myself thinking those same seemingly opposed thoughts, fuck you and I love you, in regards to my father. I wrote a post earlier today for RealMenFeel.org called Strong Enough to Be Sad (read it now if you want to be fully up to speed before proceeding. It’s short and I’ll wait.).

I often tell my coaching clients that they can love someone and still be angry, annoyed, bitter, resentful or frustrated with them. Unconditional love doesn’t mean you don’t also have other emotions, it means beneath all the other emotions, even the so-called ‘negative’ ones, there is love. Unconditional love for yourself means loving you even when you can’t stand you.

Today I brought my dad to see his oncologist for an appointment that we both knew meant cancer was back. He’s already had surgery to remove cancer from his colon and kidneys. While sitting in the waiting room today, he noticed writing on my wrist. He said, “I know I’ve asked before, but what does that say?”

On my left wrist is my first tattoo, which I got six years ago this month. Getting it was a pretty big deal. The incidents that inspired it had me interviewed on CNN and ABC’s Nightline. My dad knew all of this because he lived through it all too.

He was now asking me again what it says on my wrist. No big deal I thought. “It says GRATEFUL,” I told him. His response was a new one. He said, “Jesus Christ, what a faker!’ and stared at me with a slight smirk like he was waiting for me to laugh or react, I’m not really sure.Grateful

I wanted to reply with a hearty, “I hope you die alone on the streets,” and walk out. Instead I turned away, took a slow deep breath, reminded myself that in his dementia-ravaged and scared mind, that was the best he could do for a nervous joke to pass the time. I muttered, “Fuck you, I love you.”

During the appointment we discovered he has multiple growing cancers in his lungs, liver and stomach. Fuck you, I love you.

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Would you like to learn some of the energetic tools and techniques I use with my 1:1 clients and in my own life? Of course you do!

Energy work is much better experienced than explained and this evening will be all about experiences. You will experience your own energy.

You will learn tools that you can use on a daily basis to better your life:

  • Get Present in any moment
  • Feel more Grounded
  • Tap into the Joy of Life
  • Reclaim your own Power
  • Create better boundaries so you no longer feel like some people suck the life out of you
  • There will also be laser coaching for a brave volunteer or two
  • Discussion about other modalities such as EFT and Ho’oponopono and plenty of Q&A.

It is happening this Friday, August 19 at Energy Inspired Fitness in Danvers, MA. This popular workshop will also feature my wife, Lori Grant.

Energy Tools to Rock Your Life
Friday, August 19, 6:30 – 9:30pm
$47




If you have any questions or want to recommend somewhere to offer this workshop, contact me at Andy@NavitasCoach.com

“You are responsible for the energy that you create for yourself, and you’re responsible for the energy that you bring to others…. All life is energy and we are transmitting it at every moment. We are all beaming little signals like radio frequencies, and the world is responding in kind.” ~ Oprah

 

Join us this Friday!

Energy Tools to Rock Your Life
Friday, August 19, 6:30 – 9:30pm
$47




If you have any questions or want to recommend somewhere to offer this workshop, contact me at Andy@NavitasCoach.com

Energy Inspired Fitness is located at
Putnam Barn
Wadsworth Village
130 Centre Street
Danvers, MA 01923

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